A Mom strips in public to push self-love message!

Once again, a very brave and courageous action has been taken to prove that there are people out there that do not view the human body as a judgement call. It is however, also proof that the need for accepting who we are without prejudice is still very much an issue for many.
We read and hear that, "self-acceptance must first come from within". I  totally agree, as how else can you accept who you are through the eyes of another?
There will always be doubt in the back of your mind when measuring your worth through someone else's words.

~Truly Inspirational~

Feeling less than about who you are will not change the day for anyone but you!
You are among many with your self-acceptance!
You are all alone in your self persecution!
The only one responsible for your self-acceptance is YOU!
We are human, therefore we are ALL flawed!

D

Stop webcam child sex tourism!

This video touches on a very disturbing topic.
The topic being the Internet/ Webcam Child Sex Tourism.
If you are easily offended with the reality of the serious acts of predators/pedophiles, then I do not advise you watch this video.
This video speaks for itself~

~Self-Perfection = Self-esteem~

Take the message above very seriously, as it is what will determine your ability to love you.

How you see yourself through your own eyes is what will take you to a higher self-image which will in-turn raise your self-esteem. I am sharing one of my more intense articles on self-esteem with you as I feel it can never be read enough~


Self-esteem issues seems to be one of the strongest emotions that challenge many women today.
It has become a woman's first worry when she awakens, and her last worry before she sleeps.
It is said that we are all born with a natural self-esteem, but through the worlds concerns about power and control, we have been trained to worry about what others think of us and how we can please them.

We have forgotten how to love ourselves and treat ourselves with respect.

We are taught that loving ourselves is selfish and will only make us appear conceited, which will turn people off. If we are not allowed to learn how to love ourselves, then how can we learn to allow others to love us? We cannot feel love and positive esteem for ourselves if we focus all of it on others first. If we do, we then run the risk of offering all of our inner feelings to someone and not getting anything in return. At this point we begin to feel resentment, cheated and even lower in our ability to ever love again.
People that have scars from resentment and abuse are the hardest people to love. They have the highest low self-esteem walls to climb. In short, they are unreachable.

This is not a good thing at all.

 When a person says in all honesty that they are suffering from a low self-esteem issue, I take that very seriously. This is a true cry for help. They are at the bottom of their pit and are asking for help to get out. They are at a point where they will expect you to love them and take care of them as they would themselves. In other words, we all know the worst thing a person can do is expect their partner to be a mind reader. Well, when a person is suffering from a low self-esteem, trust me, they do expect just that. They will expect for you to just know what they need. They only have faith in you. They have lost faith in themselves long ago and they have no recourse. This places a very huge burden on your shoulders as their partner.

This is not a good thing..........

Dorothyl

Self-Comparison...

Be happy with your uniqueness, and don't compare...

Self-comparison is one of the most common felt, not to mention dangerous, emotions. When you worry and question yourself as to whether or not you measure up, you immediately set up self-destructing roadblocks to a positive self-esteem and your own happiness.

To compare yourself with others, is indirectly questioning your own self-worth.

You are already giving in to self-destructive thoughts such as:

  -I am not as pretty...

  -I am not as skinny..

  -I don`t have the same walk as..

  -I will never be able to afford...

  -I could never be as popular as...

If you were to say these things out loud or watch yourself say them in a mirror, it would not take long to hear a true lack of self-respect.

Have you ever heard that the more you tell yourself something, the more you will surely begin to believe it? Well, this is why I speak so highly of retraining your thought patterns. Whether it is positive or negative thoughts, eventually your mind will be re-trained. The key is to stay away from the negative and/or replace them with positive thoughts. The longer that you dwell on any negative thought, the more likely it will seem very true to you.

When you begin to question your own value as a human being, you are blatantly abusing your own self-esteem. Why would you ever want to do that? Self-comparison involves self-worth and uniqueness to a very high degree. Have you ever been invited to a party for an old school friend? Did you dread the thought of how you will compare to people that you used to go to high school with? It's an ugly feeling isn't it? Then why not just think about seeing old friends again? Better yet, hope that many of the friends that you shared an important time of your life with will turn up, or for that matter are even still alive.

Self-esteem through Ernestine Sheperd: BodyBuilder

Going from 20 -50 even to 70 years of age... where is it said, that, as women age, we have to stop taking care and concern of our health and our bodies?
Why do we allow our self-esteem, self-love and our confidence to be directed by outside influence?
It is no secret that in society today, we face many stereotypical challenges aside from the natural life cycles, that it does become harder and harder to feel that we have and still serve a purpose in this world.
I dedicate this post to a woman whom has taken all of those misconceptions and stereotypical ways of thinking and not only embraced the challenges but used her energies and proved them all wrong~
I would like to share with you, a special post today of an incredibly inspirational, dedicated and motivated lady~

Meet Ernestine Sheperd:....

At 75, Ernestine Shepherd is in better shape than most people, decades her junior. Up at 3 a.m. every morning, she spends her days running, lifting weights and working out.  Aside all of that, she also works as a certified personal trainer at her gym.

Feeling better than she  did at 40,”Bodybuilding champion Ernestine Shepherd shows us that ”being out of shape” as we age truly is merely an option — NOT a mandate! She is a role model not just for senior women everywhere, but for every one of us. . More of Ernestein

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~The key that unlocks all doors, lies inside of you~

~Only you, have the power to unlock those doors~

Dorothyl

Motivation by the letter...

Need I say more... Need I expect less.... I give you the letters to become more motivated and now in turn you can give me the action in making these letters of motivation work for you.

If you choose to not take action in becoming self-motivated... you have only yourself to blame at the end of the day. It is all about making the choice and taking the steps.

I know you can do it.... now you just have to do it.

DorothyL

Self-esteem Tips

~~Our Tips for you~~ **Never let how others think, talk or what they do, define how you choose to love and accept who you are. **Media's expectation on the beauty and sexiness of a women is nothing more than a learned behavior. **There is no reality in that what-so-ever except the obsessed way of thinking in which you allow. **Food is not your enemy, it is in the allowing of messages from others dictate to you, thier ideas on what perfect is~ **There is a belief that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, if there is any truth to this, you must not have your eyes open when looking at your own reflection. **A positive self-image is vital to our own reflection, as we will never be able to see ourselves through another persons eyes, only our own. **Self-improvement is all about those a-ha-moments and you can never overindulge in those. ** When you wake up in the morning, the first thing you will do is stretch...stretch and feel how good that feels. **Take a long look at yourself in the mirror, give it a few minutes until you have passed the...ewwww, look at all my imperfections reaction. Then keep looking and you will notice those imperfections slowly become a familiar beauty. **Throw out all of those so called beauty magazines...why continue to fall into the medias traps of their view on what beauty is. ** A positive balance is vital in how you feel throughout the day when thinking about who you are. So, why not focus on the good stuff about who you are~ Dorothyl~ Read More....

Worry...what a waste of time~

Have you ever noticed how much time is spent worrying or thinking you are just not good enough? When you allow ourselves to dwell on any negative form of thinking such as you are not good enough...you then become your own abuser. You are the only person responsible for allowing yourself to be brought down. Why would you want to be a self-abuser...give that some thought as it will help motivate you away from those thoughts of seeing yourself as being less than.

If you do not think highly of who you are, how can you expect anyone else to think highly of you?

Initially, it is what you allow to affect you, that steers your thinking towards the negative side of the road. It takes nothing more than being a bit tired or sick to lower the strong hold of your self-acceptance. So keep in check with that, meaning when you feel like your self is beating your self up.

No one person feels good about who they are all of the time. A balance is vital in how you feel throughout the day when thinking about who you are. Without balance you can either fall down, meaning a low self-esteem or fly up high, meaning an ego so bright that it blinds others, either way you are not in a healthy frame of mind. When a negative thought does take over in making you feel down about who you are, simplify it by breaking it down to small issues that you can handle. Also remember that tomorrow is a new day. Everything always looks different tomorrow because there is still hope for a better day. To worry about what is or what you cannot change wastes time again. Realize who you are and don't put more expectations on yourself than you can handle about who you are or what you can give. 

~Keep in mind that ..

Worry is like a rocking chair...

It gives you something to do...

But it gets you no where~

Oh...and don't forget to just ~BE AWESOME~

~D~

Imagine that.....

Imagine never having to feel that you are less than, just because you have already compared yourself down so low that you become paranoid even before your day begins.

Women...we spend way too much time worrying about if our appearance will be acceptable. We underestimate the power of our own confidence and how it affects how others see us.

When a person walks in a room...the second she smiles, is when others begin to see her clearly and accept her for her self. To walk into a room already feeling defeated creates a huge cloud of smoke that no one can see through. All they are left with is their own thoughts and imagination of who you are.

Confidence is your best friend. There is not one person on this earth that is completely happy with what they look like on the outside. This is how is is meant to be as there is no one person created in the perfect image. The only perfect image is the one that you compare yourself to. That image is gaged by how you feel about yourself. You are in a sense the creator of your own comparisons.

Instead of starting your day worrying about the things you do not like about the way you look....try challenging yourself with a little game of thought...by taking every second day in all fairness to you and pick out what you do like about the way you look.

You will be amazed at just how much you will realize how much you have to offer in just that little game.

I dare you~

~D~

Self-Esteem & it's 15 Styles of Distorted Thinking

Self-esteem is very much controlled by how one thinks, interprets, internalizes and allows others thoughts about them, to affect them.....otherwise know as, 'cognitive distortions'~

I ran across this list of different styles of exactly that. I felt compelled to share this list with you for the reason that, I believe self-awareness is a key to unlocking so many of those doors in which you find yourself either locked behind or locked out of.

To know thyself, is something that I highly recommend to everyone in order to be able maintain a healthy balance of self-esteem.

The list below is very informative and extremely thorough in helping you understand, even identify how your mind thinks, which in turn can be very beneficial to the health of your own self-esteem and balance.

~In short...I could not have compiled a better list myself ~

1. Filtering: You take the negative details and magnify them, while filtering out all positive aspects of a situation. A single detail may be picked out, and the whole event becomes colored by this detail. When you pull negative things out of context, isolated from all the good experiences around you, you make them larger and more awful than they really are.

2. Polarized Thinking: The hallmark of this distortion is an insistence on dichotomous choices...eg- Things are black or white, good or bad. You tend to perceive everything at the extremes, with very little room for a middle ground. The greatest danger in polarized thinking is its impact on how you judge yourself. For example-You have to be perfect or you're a failure.

3. Over-generalization: You come to a general conclusion based on a single incident or piece of evidence. If something bad happens once, you expect it to happen over and over again. 'Always' and 'never' are cues that this style of thinking is being utilized. This distortion can lead to a restricted life, as you avoid future failures based on the single incident or event.

4. Mind Reading: Without their saying so, you know what people are feeling and why they act the way they do. In particular, you are able to divine how people are feeling toward you. Mind reading depends on a process called projection. You imagine that people feel the same way you do and react to things the same way you do. Therefore, you don't watch or listen carefully enough to notice that they are actually different. Mind readers jump to conclusions that are true for them, without checking whether they are true for the other person.

5. Catastrophicizing: You expect disaster. You notice or hear about a problem and start "what if's." What if that happens to me? What if tragedy strikes? There are no limits to a really fertile catastrophic imagination. An underlying catalyst for this style of thinking is that you do not trust in yourself and your capacity to adapt to change.

6. Personalization: This is the tendency to relate everything around you to yourself. For example, thinking that everything people do or say is some kind of reaction to you. You also compare yourself to others, trying to determine who's smarter, better looking, etc. The underlying assumption is that your worth is in question. You are therefore continually forced to test your value as a person by measuring yourself against others. If you come out better, you get a moment's relief. If you come up short, you feel diminished. The basic thinking error is that you interpret each experience, each conversation, each look as a clue to your worth and value.

7. Control Fallacies: There are two ways you can distort your sense of power and control. If you feel externally controlled, you see yourself as helpless, a victim of fate. The fallacy of internal control has you responsible for the pain and happiness of everyone around you. Feeling externally controlled keeps you stuck. You don't believe you can really affect the basic shape of your life, let alone make any difference in the world. The truth of the matter is that we are constantly making decisions, and that every decision affects our lives. On the other hand, the fallacy of internal control leaves you exhausted as you attempt to fill the needs of everyone around you, and feel responsible in doing so (and guilty when you cannot).

8. Fallacy of Fairness: You feel resentful because you think you know what's fair, but other people won't agree with you. Fairness is so conveniently defined, so temptingly self-serving, that each person gets locked into his or her own point of view. It is tempting to make assumptions about how things would change if people were only fair or really valued you. But the other person hardly ever sees it that way, and you end up causing yourself a lot of pain and an ever-growing resentment.

9. Blaming: You hold other people responsible for your pain, or take the other tack and blame yourself for every problem. Blaming often involves making someone else responsible for choices and decisions that are actually our own responsibility. In blame systems, you deny your right (and responsibility) to assert your needs, say no, or go elsewhere for what you want.

10. Shoulds: You have a list of ironclad rules about how you and other people should act. People who break the rules anger you, and you feel guilty if you violate the rules. The rules are right and indisputable and as a result, you are often in the position of judging and finding fault (in yourself and in others). Cue words indicating the presence of this distortion are should, ought, and must.

11. Emotional Reasoning: You believe that what you feel must be true-automatically. If you feel stupid or boring, then you must be stupid and boring. If you feel guilty, then you must have done something wrong. The problem with emotional reasoning is that our emotions interact and correlate with our thinking process. Therefore, if you have distorted thoughts and beliefs, your emotions will reflect these distortions.

12. Fallacy of Change: You expect that other people will change to suit you if you just pressure or cajole them enough. You need to change people because your hopes for happiness seem to depend entirely on them. The truth is the only person you can really control or have much hope of changing is yourself. The underlying assumption of this thinking style is that your happiness depends on the actions of others. Your happiness actually depends on the thousands of large and small choices you make in your life.

13. Global Labeling: You generalize one or two qualities (in yourself or others) into a negative global judgment. Global labeling ignores all contrary evidence, creating a view of the world that can be stereotyped and one-dimensional. Labeling yourself can have a negative and insidious impact upon your self-esteem; while labeling others can lead to snap-judgments, relationship problems, and prejudice.

14. Being Right: You feel continually on trial to prove that your opinions and actions are correct. Being wrong is unthinkable and you will go to any length to demonstrate your rightness. Having to be 'right' often makes you hard of hearing. You aren't interested in the possible veracity of a differing opinion, only in defending your own. Being right becomes more important than an honest and caring relationship.

15. Heaven's Reward Fallacy: You expect all your sacrifice and self-denial to pay off, as if there were someone keeping score. You fell bitter when the reward doesn't come as expected. The problem is that while you are always doing the 'right thing,' if your heart really isn't in it, you are physically and emotionally depleting yourself.

*From Thoughts & Feelings by McKay, Davis, & Fanning. New Harbinger, 1981.

~D~

Happy Easter~

~Believe Quotes~

“Love comes to those who still hope even though they've been disappointed, to those who still believe even though they've been betrayed, to those who still love even though they've been hurt before.”

“Run your fingers through my soul. For once, just once, feel exactly what I feel, believe what I believe, perceive as I perceive, look, experience, examine, and for once; just once, understand.”

“This is the true measure of love: When we believe that we alone can love, that no one could ever have loved so before us, and that no one will ever love in the same way after us”

“Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe your critics are right...Believe in you at all costs"

“There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do.”

“One will without a doubt believe whatever one repeats to oneselfenough times, whether the statement be true of false. It will become a dominating thought in one's mind...So think wisely”

- End Female Genital Mutilation~ Please do sign..

Did you know that every day, at least 8000 girls and women in the world are suffering because they have been subjected to an age-old practice called female genital mutilation?

That’s five girls every minute.

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HOW DO I….?

People are continuously asking me:

How do I......

-feel better about myself?
-get over this hurt and loneliness feeling?
-stop these insecure feelings?
-stop comparing myself to others?
-find a healthy balance in my life?
-stop over eating?
-find happiness in my relationship?
-find a perfect partner?
-find a desire to move forward?
-stop old memories from ruining my present life?
-be a better person?
-fit into the 'normal' mold expected of me?
-stop worrying?
-see life through a glass half full as opposed to half empty?
-find sexual joy with my partner again?
-stop my partners addictions?

I can go on and on with the 'how do I's' in life.

I cannot do the walk for you, but I sure can help you draw out your map. In my own life and experiences of the 'How Do I's', I have worked very hard at finding answers to all of these weights that pull us down every day.

Life is life...we are all born with similar tools and we are all given a fairly good start.

What we do with our lives is really our own choices...our choices are up to us....we choose which directions to travel in our map of life.

Yes...it is that simple.

So there you have it....basically where you are right now in your mind is where you have chosen to be.

Some will say...pills are needed...therapy is needed....hmmmm!

Pills lead into more pills and in the end only succeed in clouding ones mind of the reality they need to find a certain clarity.

Therapy seems to also lead into nothing but more therapy and confusion in more cases than not. Oh, then we also have that unjustified cost attached to the time involved.

These so called cures would be more helpful if they were used as a temporary support, not as a new way of life, which unfortunately happens to most that take either route to happiness.
An addiction or even a dependency is what ends up evolving.

So what are you left with?

You are left with your own mind and your own choices. It always comes down to one person at the end of the day.

When you are falling asleep, the only person in control of your thoughts is YOU.

When you wake up in the morning, the only person in control of your thoughts is YOU.

You determine which way to think.
You determine what you feel.
You are the only person responsible for how you feel.
You know that happy is so much better and full-filling than sad.
You determine what words will be allowed to remain in your thoughts.
You are the key to your self-esteem and self-worth being healthy.

When it starts to rain, you know enough to get an umbrella to stay dry.
When you feel cold, you reach for a sweater to stay warm.
When a noise is hurting your ears, you turn it down.
When you see someone crying or hurting, you have immediate positive advice for comforting them.
When you feel sick, you call in to cancel your plans, whether it be work, school or a social outing.
Now with all of these situations, you have no problem taking responsibility of choosing the right thoughts or actions.

So why is it that we....

- fall into very bad habits of taking the hard way around?
- hold onto hurt and pain?
- want to hang onto the victim roles?
- allow our negative thoughts override our positive thoughts?
- allow what others think of us matter more than what we think of ourselves?
-preoccupy so much of our very limited time allowing sadness and memories determine our day?
-work harder at staying down then getting back up?
-sign up for all the pity parties we can find?
-look to blame anyone else for our shortcomings or downfalls?

The toughest step in reaching that happier more balanced you is to truly accept the fact that it is YOU that is the key.
Once you can actually conceive this fact, then you will be able to use your mind and your choices to move forward.

We have already determined and agreed that:

-you know whats right from wrong.
-you know how to think.
-you can react positively when necessary.
-you can choose your thoughts to determine your feelings.

So what are you waiting for now.

You have the answer..it is YOU.

It is not your partner, your parents, your children and most certainly not the media that determines your happiness and self-acceptance.

It is YOU!!!!
This is the first day in the mind of YOU!
The YOU that will make the positive choices of thought.
The YOU that will not allow the past or negative remarks determine how your day will be.
This is the first day in the mind of YOU.
You can accomplish your own happiness, if you choose to!

These are my thoughts and my words.

I choose to share them with you!

~D~

~You Are Beautiful~

You are Beautiful...yes you are...the minute you can say it, believe it and live it...is the minute you have taken back your identity and found self-love and self-acceptance~

The video below is about how one woman,' Caitlin Boyle' decided to take control of her negative talk that so many of us experience from time to time which keeps us in that rut which disables our ability to see our own unique beauty~

More interesting is that she decided to pay it forward and use post it notes to reach out and connect with women all over the world~

Click on..~Post it notes, help make women feel beautiful~

Visit msnbc.com for breaking news, world news, and news about the economy

~D~

Faking an Orgasm..should you?

Is there something wrong with a woman that has not experienced an orgasm?

These are a couple of questions that I have been getting asked more and more, so I thought why not address them through my articles? As much as I have written this for my ladies, men you can benefit from reading this little bit of info also!

There is nothing physically wrong with women that have not experienced the big O! They simply just have not learned how. It is very much a mental exercise as well as physical. Way back when..., we were taught that it was a bad thing to touch ourselves (masturbate). That was a big wrong turn for a lot of women. I have read a lot of letters from women that tell me that they were in their late 20`s before they ever experienced an orgasm, one that they would consider an orgasm anyway. This is why I express over and over, ladies learn about YOUR BODY! Orgasms are very connected to ones mind when dealing with the female. If you are worried or tired or feeling a bit at odds with your partner, that door is definitely going to be locked, even nailed shut. It will take some work and patience to find the key to open up that mind trap.

Too many women spend way too much time worrying about orgasms. Worry only puts up the walls that will totally disable your mind to relax and float. Think of watching and waiting for water to boil. By the time it has boiled you have lost interest. Or when you are trying to call someone and the line is forever busy, that just frustrates you to no end. If you would have just carried on with something else at the time, the water would have boiled before you knew it, the phone line would be cleared, and you would be frustration free! Orgasms work in very much the same way. Do not think about them. Do prepare for them, feel your body call them, desire them, fantasize, open your mind up to a total zone of passion. Pure thoughtless passion!

Some women feel that if they do not orgasm, their partner will feel that they have failed them, or vice verse. (GUILT) There is absolutely no room for guilt or shyness in the arena of sex! This is one of the reasons women FAKE the O! It does not do any real physical harm to fake most things in life. The only one that is losing out though, is you. You are fooling no one but yourself. Then you end up feeling even worse because you pretended at a time when you should be open and real.....................................>

~D~

Sitting behind the bars of a food addiction~

There are not too many of us that do not want or think we need to lose a pound here and there. For many it is more a matter of firming it up and that is usually done with exercise. But for the people that are carrying weight around with them that is threatening their ability to walk, run, get in and out of a car, a chair at an office building or even breathe...this is a serious issue. My article is more about the need to understand yourself a bit more and to identify with why you have fallen into this addiction for food. Realize how it is destroying your self-esteem and confidence.

**I have had a weight problem all my life. But I think it is more of a pleasure problem. I think it is also a self-esteem issue. Food was always a reward in a way..like if you eat all your dinner you can have desert. Food was and still is a way of socializing ... holidays.. going out to eat.. birthdays ect. Even as a baby I am sure that I was given food instead instead of personal affection. If my partner fails to support my diet, then it is all his fault that I have failed. If my friends don't respect that I am on a diet, how can I follow it through?**

Is this you...can you fit in this thought at any time or even partially?.........

~D~

How to..Understand low self-esteem

We absorb a lot of insightful words from many different sources telling sufferers of low self-esteem how to overcome their negative thoughts through positive thoughts. This is all very well and good, except we seem to be overlooking how to help the people whom are involved with the sufferers. How do they understand what really is behind the feelings of low self-esteem and just how much it does trap a persons mind in a state of paralysis and fear of loneliness, even abandonment in some cases.
I have written this article in hopes to increase awareness and to inform the partners and family members that are involved with a person who is suffering from low self-esteem.
I have had many requests for this type of information which is a good thing. It shows that there is more support and genuine people out there working to help others find a happy place. It also tells me that all of the information available today is not being read by closed minds nor is it going unwarranted.

I am going to refer to the sufferer of low self-esteem as the receiver and the involved party, as the giver.
The giver will be able to recognize many of the following symptoms and actions as will the receiver.

Low self -esteem ..........

~D~

.Labiaplasty..Vagina of Perfection

I am sure most of you have read or heard somewhere about one of the fastest rising choices in cosmetic surgeries happening in today's world of body-image .
One being Vaginal Cosmetic Surgery (Labiaplasty) ..according to stats..there has been an estimated 30% increase since 2005. More women each year are choosing to have their labia cut and sculpted like a piece of modeling clay. They are also signing up fast and furious to have it stitched up to reduce looseness and size through what is labeled, 'Vaginal Rejuvenation'. The age groups range anywhere from 15-late 20's.

So do tell me people....where is this need to be perfect going to stop?

Self-esteem...self-acceptance....being accepted... money... popularity.... vanity.....just because I can....it is the latest fashion.....porn....prostitution....ect.

These are just a few of the reasons as to the why's of this type of cosmetic surgery, which do not differ from any other.

Just so that I am not seeming to be gender specific on the topic of drastic measures to be the 'perfect person'....I will say that women are not alone in this need to 'better themselves' trap. There are many men right there next to them. These men are constantly searching for longevity fixes (staying power), surgeries to extend their penis, pectoral glands, hair implants, ect......

~D~

The ugliness of Low self confidence~

How fine life would be if we all felt like a million dollars 24 hours a day,7 days a week! We would never, ever feeling like we have woken up in a pit, full of self confidence lows, having the energy to just jump out of bed and meet the day with loads of enthusiasm and knowing that we are going to get through the day without worries of any kind. The sun will shine all day, with just enough breeze to keep our bodies cool. Life is good, oh so good.

NOT if you are a person imprisoned by low self confidence, it so is not. Low self confidence is a very nasty characteristic to have inside us. It makes us feel weak. It makes us lose faith in our actions and dreams. It can even stop us from going forward in our lives with relationships. It allows so many ugly negative thoughts to take hold of our minds. Some will even try to escape this gripping emotion through the comfort they feel in their eating patterns. Some begin to trust the emotion that creates mistrust, in order to derail their thinking, only setting them up for a history of jealous explosions.

We begin to act selfish, constantly thinking that every action made is directed at us in some negative way or that we are the butt end of the joke when we see people laughing and happen to be looking our way. We feel that we are being compared with others. We feel we cannot ever do anything right. We see negative in every word that is said about us. We want to share our pain and loneliness, so that everyone around us can feel equally sad. We become habitual riders on the roller coaster of self-pity. We want to be the only person in the world with any good qualities. We want our partners to see only us and desire only us. We want our partners to only have fun when we are around them. We do not allow ourselves to have fun because we are allowing our selfish habit of low confidence to stand in our way. Notice all the WE`s in this paragraph.........

~D~