Self-comparison is one of the most common felt, not to mention dangerous, emotions. When you worry and question yourself as to whether or not you measure up, you immediately set up self-destructing roadblocks to a positive self-esteem and your own happiness.
To compare yourself with others, is indirectly questioning your own self-worth.
You are already giving in to self-destructive thoughts such as:
-I am not as pretty...
-I am not as skinny..
-I don`t have the same walk as..
-I will never be able to afford...
-I could never be as popular as...
If you were to say these things out loud or watch yourself say them in a mirror, it would not take long to hear a true lack of self-respect.
Have you ever heard that the more you tell yourself something, the more you will surely begin to believe it? Well, this is why I speak so highly of retraining your thought patterns. Whether it is positive or negative thoughts, eventually your mind will be re-trained. The key is to stay away from the negative and/or replace them with positive thoughts. The longer that you dwell on any negative thought, the more likely it will seem very true to you.
When you begin to question your own value as a human being, you are blatantly abusing your own self-esteem. Why would you ever want to do that? Self-comparison involves self-worth and uniqueness to a very high degree. Have you ever been invited to a party for an old school friend? Did you dread the thought of how you will compare to people that you used to go to high school with? It's an ugly feeling isn't it? Then why not just think about seeing old friends again? Better yet, hope that many of the friends that you shared an important time of your life with will turn up, or for that matter are even still alive.