What is Womens self-esteem? Definition: A woman's experience of being capable of meeting life's challenges and the feeling of being worthy of happiness. Women who have healthy or authentic self-esteem trust their own being to be constructive, responsible, and trustworthy. It is an inner state that can be nurtured and cultivated. A Womans Self-esteem is the level that you respect and value yourself as a lovable, worthwhile woman. Where Does Self-Esteem Come From? Our self-esteem develops and evolves throughout our lives as we build an image of ourselves through our experiences with different people and activities. Experiences during our childhood play a particularly large role in the shaping of our basic self-esteem. When we were growing up, our successes (and failures) and how we were treated by the members of our immediate family, by our teachers, coaches, religious authorities, and by our peers, all contributed to the creation of our basic self-esteem.

Tuesday, November 5, 2013

Stop webcam child sex tourism!

This video touches on a very disturbing topic.
The topic being the Internet/ Webcam Child Sex Tourism.
If you are easily offended with the reality of the serious acts of predators/pedophiles, then I do not advise you watch this video.
This video speaks for itself~

Friday, May 17, 2013

~Self-Perfection = Self-esteem~


Take the message above very seriously, as it is what will determine your ability to love you.

How you see yourself through your own eyes is what will take you to a higher self-image which will in-turn raise your self-esteem. I am sharing one of my more intense articles on self-esteem with you as I feel it can never be read enough~


Self-esteem issues seems to be one of the strongest emotions that challenge many women today.
It has become a woman's first worry when she awakens, and her last worry before she sleeps.
It is said that we are all born with a natural self-esteem, but through the worlds concerns about power and control, we have been trained to worry about what others think of us and how we can please them.

We have forgotten how to love ourselves and treat ourselves with respect.

We are taught that loving ourselves is selfish and will only make us appear conceited, which will turn people off. If we are not allowed to learn how to love ourselves, then how can we learn to allow others to love us? We cannot feel love and positive esteem for ourselves if we focus all of it on others first. If we do, we then run the risk of offering all of our inner feelings to someone and not getting anything in return. At this point we begin to feel resentment, cheated and even lower in our ability to ever love again.
People that have scars from resentment and abuse are the hardest people to love. They have the highest low self-esteem walls to climb. In short, they are unreachable.

This is not a good thing at all.

 When a person says in all honesty that they are suffering from a low self-esteem issue, I take that very seriously. This is a true cry for help. They are at the bottom of their pit and are asking for help to get out. They are at a point where they will expect you to love them and take care of them as they would themselves. In other words, we all know the worst thing a person can do is expect their partner to be a mind reader. Well, when a person is suffering from a low self-esteem, trust me, they do expect just that. They will expect for you to just know what they need. They only have faith in you. They have lost faith in themselves long ago and they have no recourse. This places a very huge burden on your shoulders as their partner.

This is not a good thing..........



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Dorothyl

Sunday, January 27, 2013

Self-Comparison...



Be happy with your uniqueness, and don't compare...

Self-comparison is one of the most common felt, not to mention dangerous, emotions. When you worry and question yourself as to whether or not you measure up, you immediately set up self-destructing roadblocks to a positive self-esteem and your own happiness.
To compare yourself with others, is indirectly questioning your own self-worth.

You are already giving in to self-destructive thoughts such as:
  -I am not as pretty...
  -I am not as skinny..
  -I don`t have the same walk as..
  -I will never be able to afford...
  -I could never be as popular as...
If you were to say these things out loud or watch yourself say them in a mirror, it would not take long to hear a true lack of self-respect.

Have you ever heard that the more you tell yourself something, the more you will surely begin to believe it? Well, this is why I speak so highly of retraining your thought patterns. Whether it is positive or negative thoughts, eventually your mind will be re-trained. The key is to stay away from the negative and/or replace them with positive thoughts. The longer that you dwell on any negative thought, the more likely it will seem very true to you.

When you begin to question your own value as a human being, you are blatantly abusing your own self-esteem. Why would you ever want to do that? Self-comparison involves self-worth and uniqueness to a very high degree. Have you ever been invited to a party for an old school friend? Did you dread the thought of how you will compare to people that you used to go to high school with? It's an ugly feeling isn't it? Then why not just think about seeing old friends again? Better yet, hope that many of the friends that you shared an important time of your life with will turn up, or for that matter are even still alive.

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Friday, June 15, 2012

Self-esteem through Ernestine Sheperd: BodyBuilder

Going from 20 -50 even to 70 years of age... where is it said, that, as women age, we have to stop taking care and concern of our health and our bodies?
Why do we allow our self-esteem, self-love and our confidence to be directed by outside influence?
It is no secret that in society today, we face many stereotypical challenges aside from the natural life cycles, that it does become harder and harder to feel that we have and still serve a purpose in this world.
I dedicate this post to a woman whom has taken all of those misconceptions and stereotypical ways of thinking and not only embraced the challenges but used her energies and proved them all wrong~
I would like to share with you, a special post today of an incredibly inspirational, dedicated and motivated lady~

Meet Ernestine Sheperd:....





At 75, Ernestine Shepherd is in better shape than most people, decades her junior. Up at 3 a.m. every morning, she spends her days running, lifting weights and working out.  Aside all of that, she also works as a certified personal trainer at her gym.

Feeling better than she  did at 40,”Bodybuilding champion Ernestine Shepherd shows us that ”being out of shape” as we age truly is merely an option — NOT a mandate! She is a role model not just for senior women everywhere, but for every one of us. . More of Ernestein

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~The key that unlocks all doors, lies inside of you~
~Only you, have the power to unlock those doors~


Dorothyl

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Motivation by the letter...


Need I say more... Need I expect less.... I give you the letters to become more motivated and now in turn you can give me the action in making these letters of motivation work for you.
If you choose to not take action in becoming self-motivated... you have only yourself to blame at the end of the day. It is all about making the choice and taking the steps.

I know you can do it.... now you just have to do it.

DorothyL

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Self-esteem Tips



~~Our Tips for you~~


**Never let how others think, talk or what they do, define how you choose to love and accept who you are.

**Media's expectation on the beauty and sexiness of a women is nothing more than a learned behavior.

**There is no reality in that what-so-ever except the obsessed way of thinking in which you allow.

**Food is not your enemy, it is in the allowing of messages from others dictate to you, thier ideas on what perfect is~

**There is a belief that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, if there is any truth to this, you must not have your eyes open when looking at your own reflection.

**A positive self-image is vital to our own reflection, as we will never be able to see ourselves through another persons eyes, only our own.

**Self-improvement is all about those a-ha-moments and you can never overindulge in those.

** When you wake up in the morning, the first thing you will do is stretch...stretch and feel how good that feels.

**Take a long look at yourself in the mirror, give it a few minutes until you have passed the...ewwww, look at all my imperfections reaction. Then keep looking and you will notice those imperfections slowly become a familiar beauty.

**Throw out all of those so called beauty magazines...why continue to fall into the medias traps of their view on what beauty is.

** A positive balance is vital in how you feel throughout the day when thinking about who you are. So, why not focus on the good stuff about who you are~

Dorothyl~

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Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Worry...what a waste of time~

Have you ever noticed how much time is spent worrying or thinking you are just not good enough? When you allow ourselves to dwell on any negative form of thinking such as you are not good enough...you then become your own abuser. You are the only person responsible for allowing yourself to be brought down. Why would you want to be a self-abuser...give that some thought as it will help motivate you away from those thoughts of seeing yourself as being less than.
If you do not think highly of who you are, how can you expect anyone else to think highly of you?
Initially, it is what you allow to affect you, that steers your thinking towards the negative side of the road. It takes nothing more than being a bit tired or sick to lower the strong hold of your self-acceptance. So keep in check with that, meaning when you feel like your self is beating your self up.
No one person feels good about who they are all of the time. A balance is vital in how you feel throughout the day when thinking about who you are. Without balance you can either fall down, meaning a low self-esteem or fly up high, meaning an ego so bright that it blinds others, either way you are not in a healthy frame of mind. When a negative thought does take over in making you feel down about who you are, simplify it by breaking it down to small issues that you can handle. Also remember that tomorrow is a new day. Everything always looks different tomorrow because there is still hope for a better day. To worry about what is or what you cannot change wastes time again. Realize who you are and don't put more expectations on yourself than you can handle about who you are or what you can give. 

~Keep in mind that ..
Worry is like a rocking chair...
It gives you something to do...
But it gets you no where~

Oh...and don't forget to just ~BE AWESOME~

~D~


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